My wife and I were listening to a radio show Thursday and the guest was talking about how we only see about 1% of the real world. I must admit there was a time that this would have went over my head or I would have just disregarded that as nonsense. But I’ve been coming to some realizations over the last 10 years that I haven’t been able to explain.
I’m also a certified hypnotherapist and I’ve noticed from my work with clients and myself that we live in two realities. About 95% of our time we live in a reality that is created by our past experiences. We mostly see what we want to see, we mostly do what we want to do and we believe what we want to believe.
And about 5% of the time we live in an totally free reality. In this reality we are learning to do new things, we are meeting new people, we are experiencing real life. We also create things in this reality. We also see death, car accidents, unexplained behaviors. We are also REAL! In this state of mind things just happen and there’s no time for explanations or preparation.
I was watching a rap music video this weekend when I was getting my hair cut and they were not just showing the video they were showing you the interaction between the rappers in the video the directors, it was some sort of behind the scene video. While everyone was looking at the fancy cars, boats, gold jewelry and the girls. I had a crazy moment of thought these guy’s were who they really wanted to be.
They were 100% happy being a rapper, they didn’t want or need to do anything else but be a rapper, write music and deal with people in their industry. For the rest of the day all I could think about was am I being REAL. Am I doing exactly what I wanted to do or was I reliving my past experiences over and over again making small progress and sometimes lots of progress, but could I be holding myself back because I’m living too much in the 95%.
When I got home I immediately asked my beautiful wife Barbra a serious question. Here’s some history first. Back in 1991 we started a small advertising magazine with $500 and a computer on lay-a-way at a small computer store. We didn’t know anything about the advertising business, we didn’t know anything about producing a newspaper, we didn’t have business contacts, we didn’t have much money. So I asked my wife why did we succeed making our weekly magazine into a multi-million dollar debt free company that’s about to turn 20 years old next year and why have we failed at other businesses that we started after that.
See we’ve tried other things since then and we’ve got plenty money to invest but most not all of them have failed. So I wanted to compare her answer to what I was thinking. She said we wanted to be successful in the advertising business. We didn’t know that you had to know about typesetting (now they call it graphic designing), we didn’t know that you had to learn about pasting up the boards (now everything is digital) we didn’t know that most businesses would turn us down when we approached them (we just thought that was normal) so we both came to the realization that at that time in 1991 we were 100% REAL.
We created opportunity, we disregarded rejection, we overlooked our under financed business, we didn’t care that we didn’t have the necessary training. We were 100% REAL!!! There was no preconceived reality for us to refer to consciously or subconsciously.
So how can we increase our time in the REAL side (keep in mind that all of us have to go back and forth between the two or we would run ourselves ragged) I don’t have a solid answer but I’ve came up with this and I’d love some feedback.
I think we have to allow ourselves to suspend our subconscious mind when it comes to doing new things. What I mean by that is we need to suspend all prejudices and previous experiences. Our success in one business doesn’t rub off to our new business(s). Ask Donald Trump!
We need to THINK more! When you THINK don’t allow your subconscious mind to help you with answers that exist only because of past experiences. Allow your subconscious to give you new idea’s.
How will you know if its a new idea or a past experience? Easy…if its a new idea you won’t know the outcome. Then you’ll be focusing on the first part of being REAL.
The next part of being REAL is are you the person you REALLY want to be? Do this exercise…write down on a piece of paper your perfect day of work and play. You need to write down in detail what you would do from morning to night including detail like: waking up to exercise at 5am or 8am, eating breakfast what would you eat, working at home or going to the office, would you own your own business or work for someone else, would you have a limo take you to the office, drive or carpool, how much money would you make on a weekly basis and how would you save and spend that money, would you live where you currently live, go into complete detail.
My wife and I did this back in 1991 but not in as much detail mostly on the financial side and I’ve recently wrote a new one that I recorded that took me 45 minutes to read. Why is this so important? Because you might find out that some of the things you thought you wanted really won’t work in your perfect day of work and play, and those things if you could have everything you wanted wouldn’t really be something you really wanted it was mostly something you thought you wanted because you didn’t have it.
If you do this exercise properly you’ll live this experience in your mind you’ll feel like its REAL.
This exercise will also help you find out if you could be REAL as this person. I’ll use this example…we see many sports stars falling apart after they achieve their goal of becoming a professional sports player with lots of money. So what tends to happen is that they constantly sabotage their lives and careers.
The sports star lived in the 5% the entire time before they become a professional but they never did the important step of understanding what a professional sports star really is. Are they okay being that person? Can they be REAL as that person.
This is across the board. This has nothing to do with money it has everything to do with being how you really are.
Enough for now I invite your comments…(please forgive grammer/spelling errors)
